Time to Talk Day: how to check in

Time to Talk Day is a national awareness day about conversations on mental health. A useful check-in is open, specific and willing to hear the real answer.

• Ask an open question. “How has your day been?” gives someone more room than “Are you OK?”

• Ask again without pressure. If the first answer is “fine”, you might say, “I am here if you want to say more.”

• Listen before offering an answer. Ask what they need rather than assuming advice will help.

• Know where support is. You might suggest their GP or a specialist charity. If there is immediate danger in the UK, call 999. Samaritans can be reached on 116 123.

• Look after yourself too. A conversation may touch on experiences that affect you as well. Take time afterwards and ask for your own support if you need it.

No matter how hard you try people may not be ready to open up but its good to remind yourself of how to spot the signs and symptoms of someone who may need a listening ear or friendly chat. Common signs or symptoms of someone struggling are:

• Eating more or less than normal.

• Mood swings.

• Low self-esteem.

• Feeling tense or anxious.

• Not sleeping properly (or wanting to sleep all the time)

• Poor memory or forgetfulness.

• Excessive drinking and/or drug use.

• Feeling really tired and lacking in energy.

If you already have access to InsideOut®, you can find guided support in the app or ask for a conversation. Employers can book thirty minutes with our clinical team to understand how the pathway works.

By Dr Becky Lunson Southall & Amy Patterson